New Everyday – a Mom’s Every Day Adventure Blog
Hi there! Welcome to New Every Day – Finding Adventure in your Every Day Life! My name is Sheila Jenkinson and this, right here? Well, this is my first-ever blog post!
So, Now what?
When I was young and single, it was all about me – my activities, my future, my dreams and desires. After I was married, it was about me and him – our activities, our future our dreams and desires.
When the kids were younger….well, you get the picture.
Now, though….they are older. My kids are now in high school and junior high, and while we are still focused on their activities, futures, dreams and desires – it simply doesn’t take as much time as it used to. So, now, here I am….back to me! And, honestly – my initial thoughts were….NOW WHAT? What do I do with all of this found time?
I’m fortunate enough to work part-time as an On-Air Personality for a Country Music Station and while it takes up some of my time and keeps me current, I still have a lot of time on my own. Our home keeps me plenty busy, but I’m able to do most of the domestic chores while my kids are at school.
My days used to be filled with their activities and after school, it seemed they wanted my full attention, but TIMES – they are a-changin’. Now, when they come home from their busy days, they want and need space. They need time to unwind. Most of the time, this part of their day doesn’t include me. This really bothered at first, because my initial thought was, “They’re home and I’m STILL by myself!” I was ready for a board game or to craft or make something together, but my son generally heads to his room to write songs or play one of his many instruments and my daughter dances in the basement….for hours or they both head outside until supper! These are great activities and I’m glad most of the time (yes, they watch TV & play video games, too) this is what they are doing, but – it leaves me out.
I moped around about this for a while, feeling sorry for myself and then I realized…this is exactly what our goal had been as parents, all along. Isn’t this what we had strived for? To have happy, self-sufficient, active young adults?
Once I stopped pouting (mostly) I was left with that question? Now WHAT? What do I do with all of this found time? So, I started thinking about this, seriously. What do I want to do with my time? What did I USED to want to do with my time, before my focus included all of the people who were now so dear to me? What were my dreams? My aspirations? And, are they the same dreams now?
Some of them are, but really many are not. Age changes things. I’m not that old, unless you ask my kids, but still….age does play a factor in how we view many things. Being a Mom changes things. I have focused on my kids for so long and still do. It’s actually hard to refocus on me. Being a wife changes things. I have responsibilities. We are a partnership. I can’t JUST go off on every whim, but I can DREAM, right? And, so, a big party of my NOW WHAT is just that – dreaming, imagining, trying things out.
Just to clarity – I’m not sporting a “Whoa is me, I’ve lost my self” mantra, here. I’m just saying, I’ve grown up a bit. I have some time. I want to take full advantage of whatever time God has given me on this earth.
That’s what this blog is all about. It’s about finding adventure in your every day life no matter what stage you are in. God wants us to enjoy our lives to the fullest. So, here we go – it’ s time to dream and to rediscover the you of your past and of your future. What now? It’s up to you!